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Connection Parenting Study Group
August 30 @ 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM
An event every week that begins at 6:30pm on Wednesday, repeating until October 11, 2017
Most of us grew up with an authoritarian model of parenting, which is based on fear. Some of us may have grown up with permissive parenting, which is also based on fear.
The model of parenting presented by Pam Leo is based on love and connection. But, how do we achieve that?? How can we stay connected to our children and still offer the guidance they need?
We will be reading and exploring the book Connection Parenting, Parenting through Connection instead of Coercion, Through Love instead of Fear by Pam Leo
HOW TO PREPARE FOR THE FIRST MEETING: read the Intro and Chapter One. Do the excercise on p32: My Parenting Goals. ***This exercise will be your foundation to get the most out of this book. You’ll need the book and a notebook.***
• 7 weeks series from WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 16 – WEDNESDAY, SEPT 27
• Meetings are 1.5 hour long from 6:30-8, please be on time.
• Meetings will consist of chapter discussions/comments, parent “ah hah” moments, sharing the journal “exercises” as desired, etc.
• Babes in arms only -non walkers.
• You’ll need a journal for this class. Please read the chapter of the week and do the excercises before each meeting
• Attend as many of the 7 meetings as possible. We strive to create a true CONNECTION PARENTING COMMUNITY to support and encourage each other.
• Do not feel that you must share your journal items.
• We must not be critical of ourselves or each other in the connection parenting circle, as Pam Leo states in the book, “One rule in Connection Parenting workshops is not to use the information to beat yourself up for what you didn’t know or couldn’t do. Making ourselves wrong for not doing it right doesn’t serve our children or us.”
Chapter One: Connecting with Ourselves
We are always parenting the ONLY way we can. Whether we consciously parent the opposite from our parents or we unconsciously parent the same way our parents did, our parenting is influenced by the way we were parented. We can consciously decide to keep the best and change the rest.
Please read chapter One and do the exercise on page 32: My Parenting Goals. This exercise will be your foundation to get the most out of this book. You’ll need the book and a notebook.
Chapter Two: Connecting With Children through Respecting Children
Respect is the foundation of connection. We teach children respect by modeling respect. We model respect by treating children with the same respect we expect. “How we treat them is what we teach them.” -Pam Leo
“We must become the people we want our children to be.” ~Joseph Chilton Pearce, Magical Child
Chapter Three: Connecting through Listening to Children’s Feelings
When we learn how children heal their emotional hurts, we gain a new level of confidence and skill in responding to crying, anger, and temper tantrums.
Parenting Journal Entry: Write what you recall about how your parents expressed anger? Describe how you express anger. Do you ever express anger in the same ways your parents did?
Chapter Four: Connecting Through Filling the Love Cup
How we treat the child, the child will treat the world. We teach children what to believe about themselves through how we treat them. Filling their love cup builds their self-esteem and self-worth and creates connection.
To reflect: How do you spend one-on-one connection time with each of your children?
Chapter Five: Connecting through Communication that Builds Relationship
Whether communication leads to connection and cooperation or disconnection and conflict depends on how we communicate.
“Please talk to me like I am someone you love.” -A parent
It is our responsibility to communicate in a way that allows children to listen.
To reflect: List the daily conflicts you have with your children. Then ask yourself, at those times of conflict when my children resist or ignore, am I either “playing my tapes” (speaking without thinking) or not listening with love? http://www.atlc.org/Resources/PamLeo/Leo6.mp3
Chapter 6: Connecting through Decoding Children’s Behavior
Children communicate their emotional hurts and needs through their behavior. When we learn to recognize children’s acting-out behavior as a communication of an unmet need, we can respond to children’s needs instead of react to their behavior.
Chapter 7: Connecting with Our Own Needs
Parents have needs, too. Families work best when everyone’s needs are met. “I can only bring peace to my children when I possess it myself.” ~Katrina Kenison
Listen to a 3 minute recording here:
*This class is a free service. Love Offerings are welcomed to help keep the Red Tent open.